Contemplating divorce, or going by a divorce, is one of life’s most stressful events. Unfortunately, more than one-half of married couples will experience it. Due to the high rates of divorce, almost everyone going by a divorce knows someone who has been divorced or is in the time of action of obtaining a divorce. There are often hurt feelings, custody battles, and character divisions to figure out.
If you’re in this situation, you might be tempted to ask friends, relatives, co-workers and others who have been by the same hard situation for advice and information-but don’t. Ask for comfort and sustain from this group, and get legal advice from your attorney. A good divorce attorney will be able to answer any questions you have and steer you in the direction that is best for you and your children.
A divorce case is complicate. Clients often feel eager because they don’t have answers to many of their questions. already though your case and a friend’s divorce may appear similar, they’re likely different. There are so many variables that go into each case including custody, money, pre-nuptial agreements, alimony, and so many other factors.
Family law situations are fact pushed. Differences in the facts of one case and another will rule to different legal strategies and results. That’s why the best person to seek legal advice from is your attorney. You should be worried about getting yourself and your children set up with the best advice and outcome possible. An attorney can rule you in the right direction, while an unwitting friend may accidentally rule you astray.
What if you don’t have an attorney however? I highly recommend hiring a lawyer who specializes in family law. Your own social network might be able to provide you with names of lawyers. In addition, there are organizations that will help you find the right resources, attorneys, and other divorce professionals. Your local Bar Associations can be another good resource.
One of my favorite organizations for women in the Chicagoland area, which helps find divorce lawyers and offers sustain groups is The Lilac Tree: Resources for Divorcing Women in Evanston, IL. The Lilac Tree is a not-for-profit organization that provides a multitude of resources for woman thinking about divorce, in the divorce course of action, or already divorced. I encourage woman looking for information to check out their website. For men, look for a local divorce meet-up group in your area.