The goal of life coaching is to help people unprotected to the lives that they want to live. Middle-aged people from age 45 by 65 reap many benefits from coaching sessions. There are several points in one’s life when adults begin to question what they are doing, whether they are living for when they retire or whether they should go ahead and live the lives of their dreams in the present. The answer to such a question comes not from the coach but from the client. The coach’s job is to listen compassionately and to present some inquisitive questions that will help clients plot out their own paths. Coaches do not seek to diagnose problems. Instead they sustain the client who is his or her own best estimate of which moves need to be made at an important crossroad in midlife.
First and foremost, clients address issues such as work-life balance. instead of looking into the past, coaches want to help their clients deal with the positive future, possibly including positive imagery. In many situations, clients have dedicated their past lives to earning money, to taking care of their loved ones, and to doing a most satisfactory job at work. Some clients express the desire to imbue their days with more playfulness and time for themselves. This could average taking time to meditate or to invent a meaningful project. For others, this entails finding the time for physical exercise instead of driving by the city’s traffic. There are many ways people can integrate joy and pleasure into their jobs like never before, but those decisions come from the hearts and minds of coaching clients. After listening well, the coach will try to determine if there might be any blocks. The two will brainstorm as a team, but ultimately, it is up to the client to come up with an action plan for success in midlife and onward.
In some situations clients feel the need to implement a career make-over or total change because they seek to fulfill dreams that they had earlier on in life. This need to tweak an old dream to fit into a new context results from having changed and evolved over the years. One client decided to leave her position as a secretary to work as an airline hostess. Another woman decided to take time away from her real estate business to fulfill a dream as a writer and poet. Neither expressed regret for such choices. Their marriages improved when their spouses decided to give them complete emotional sustain in their endeavors. Life is too precious not to be lived fully and shared honestly with those around us, at any rate our age.
Coaching at midlife addresses a wide range of issues ranging from developing one’s creativity, to work-life issues, or to dating and relationships in general. Changes come about in the family as one deals with children leaving the nest and parents becoming elderly. Clients might wish to address those issues and create a plan for more effective utilization of time with their families. As changes are made, family members have opportunities to grow alongside the client in midlife. A plan for getting everyone together more often and for supporting each other is one possible option. Behind these changes lies the structured techniques that coaches use to bring out the best in everyone.
So how does a coaching session begin when dealing with clients in midlife? The session will be instinctive. Spontaneity aligns well with midlife and early senior life. The session will help the client rebuild self-identity at a comfortable and safe speed. The session begins with a pre-coaching questionnaire or a live discovery session in which the coach gets to know the client. The coach asks questions to assist clients in discovering what actions the client is taking to unprotected to the positive changes that the client desires. No matter how many coaching models are employed by today’s coaches, they are united in supporting their clients’ positive growth and in helping clients of all ages unprotected to happiness doing what they love most.